I Don’t Date Often…

Through out my life, God has showed me that less is more. Let me explain.

Right now, I walk alone.

Right now, I walk alone.

In terms of friends, I have never been the popular girl that everyone knows. Truthfully, my friends tend to be a lot more popular than I am, and people just know me as “such and suchs’s friend.” This used to be a difficult thing for me to deal with, because in grade school there is this perception that the more friends you have the better. However, now that I am older I can see how false that statement actually is. There are so many people I went to high school with that are shocked to learn I am still best friends with the people I was best friends with during school. It always takes them by surprise, because they, unfortunately, have had to learn the lesson that 90% of the people they called friend never really had their best interest at heart. They were only friends out of convenience. They had the same classes, they rode the same bus, they were on the same sports team. But there was never really any depth to the friendship. It is very sad that they have had to go through this harsh reality, but it makes me so grateful for not being the socialite of the school.

The same thing can be said about almost ever aspects of my life. I have had to realize that God will prevent me from gathering useless things to avoid clutter. This leads me to my dating life…

It’s very ironic that I have a dating blog (thank you so much to all my readers for the support!), but I don’t really date much. There are offers, and very flattering compliments from guys, but a relationship hardly ever sparks from any of it. When I was in high school this used to trouble me. I thought there was something wrong with me. I mean I would talk to these guys and we would have a great time getting to know each other, but at the end of the day I was never the girl they tried to start a serious relationship with. Why? I kept asking myself this question. I once had a guy I cared about even tell me that I wasn’t really girlfriend material, and it hurt me to the core! Ever since him, I just carried this weight that I have to be better! So, the next relationship I got in was so forced it is ridiculous. I thought if I became the ideal girlfriend, everything would work out in the end. Long story short, of course it all backfired in my face. That is when I just had to have a one on one with God. He had to show me that there was a reason he stopped me from getting committed with those guys I talked to. I can see now God didn’t want me to connect with someone who would slowly take me off the path he had for my life, so he had to stop the relationships before they even started. And then when I tried to force a relationship for myself, he let me find out the hard way that guy was never meant to be anything more than a good friend.

So, no…I don’t date. And after my last relationship, I am okay with that! God is saving something better for me. He has a man that was made just for me and I for him. I am bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh. He will be everything I didn’t even know I wanted in a man! And he is going to love me…..like I have never experienced before in my life.

…and the wait continues.

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9 Responses to I Don’t Date Often…

  1. Ada says:

    I’ve been away from wordpress for a few months, but I just wanted to let you know I find your blogs as relevant as always. You’re totally right, and I can relate – it’s really about the quality of the people that matters. Sometimes you wonder why God says no to certain things – but in hindsight, you can always see a greater plan. Your faith is inspiring and such a wonderful and timely reminder for me today. Thanks for sharing! xo

    • Oh my goodness, thank you so much for reading! šŸ™‚ It is encouraging to hear such kind words. I can’t take credit at all for this one though. It was nothing but God. I had been uninspired to write all week and even today. But when I sat down two hours before I wanted to post a new entry everything just flowed out. Any who, I hope you will continue to stop by whenever you are cruising WordPress! šŸ™‚

  2. I always enjoy reading your blog posts. On my blog I am inviting other bloggers to write on the subject, why I am still single. I would be grateful if you considered guest blogging on the subject.

  3. Mom says:

    Unfortunately a lesson I had to learn as well. Like your Mom God has you set aside for a greater good. Therefore you will experience some of the same struggles but I take heart in knowing…God got you in his hands.

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