For the month of February I asked a few people to write what they think love is with the hopes of getting a conversation started. This will allow multiple voices on my blog to describe their experiences and what love means to them. This first piece finishes the statement, “Love is…the nakedness of the soul.” I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! If you are interested in submitting a guest piece for the blog, visit the “contact me” tab above.
The Nakedness of the Soul.
“Love is patient. Love is kind. Love is genuine.” I hear these words so often and relate this to the characteristics of love. I then ask myself, “Do I encompass these qualities when I demonstrate my love towards a person?” Patience? Check. Kind? Check. Genuine? Check.However, after I go through my mental checklist, I feel that something is missing. Intimacy.
Intimacy is a scary thing. Often time we connect being intimate with the physical acts such as hugging, kissing and sex. Yet, intimacy can be more than that. Intimacy allows a person to become completely transparent. “Into me you see.”
But why is it so hard for us to allow people to see us completely transparent?
- We do not trust the person we are in “Love with.” Transparency allows us to be vulnerable. No one likes to be vulnerable. When you’re vulnerable you leave the opportunity for someone to hurt to you. It’s a terrifying thing. Nevertheless, if you don’t trust the person you are in love with then how can you fully let your guard down? Barriers are created due to fear and the lack of trust.
- Lacking Confidence. Confidence allows us to be comfortable in our own skin. Conversely, if we are not confident we are afraid that we will be judge or criticized especially by our significant other. Thus, it would be hard for us to open up.
- You have not been able to be intimate with God. How can we be intimate with God? Often times we find ourselves not being able to go to God about everything. It is hard for us to open up. Genesis 1:26 states “Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness.” God created us in his image so he can relate to us. He is also omnipotent. So why is it hard for us expose our feelings and thoughts? The problem with us being intimate with God is that we are afraid and do not fully trust him. How can we achieve intimacy with man if we cannot achieve it with our creator?
“A person who never learned to TRUST confuses intensity with intimacy, obsession with care, and control with security.” ~Patrick Carnes
-Akosua Agyire, 21 Atlanta