…well 2 years and 11 months.
2 years and 11 months since I have been single. Approximately 1065 days since I have been…in a dysfunctional relationship. Oh, you thought I was sad? (chuckle)
I have been single for quite a bit of time now, and I have learned a lot on this journey! Every step of the way I have learned more of who am I as an individual, how much God truly loves me, and how to enjoy my own company. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying the single life is easy. Being single is not for the weak at heart. No. There are those lonely nights or the times I wish I had someone to talk to after a long day of work, but there is no sense on focusing on what my life is lacking. I would rather meditate on what is constantly being poured into my life: opportunities to learn more about what God has placed inside of me.
I have learned so much in three years. It is as if I am a totally different person, but I’m not! I’m the same me; I am the me God always designed me to be! I just had to grow and go through some pain to discover what was lying dormant inside of me all along.
So, a little encouragement to anyone who has been single for a while: enjoy the journey.
Recognize that this is a journey of self discovery for you. You are alone for a reason, and that reason is so you can take an introspective look at your life. So you can learn who you are and what is lying dormant inside of you. Love isn’t going anywhere. But life is short, and your days are numbered. Don’t waste them waiting for something that is going to happen anyways. Use them to propel yourself slowly but consistently to your destiny. You might not be single on purpose, but choose today to be single with a purpose.
“If you’re single, do not worry about finding someone. Instead, enjoy yourself. Eat good food. Travel to neat places. Laugh with people you have nothing in common with. Do whatever makes you happiest. You are not in need of an “other half.” You are already whole. If you meet someone, then you will still be whole. Tell yourself you are wonderful.” -Unknown